Today, my friend shared a story about the need to set boundaries with me. They mentioned that their boss took a day off, yet still found the time to send an email filled with numerous questions. This behaviour aligned with their boss’s typical work style—being constantly busy, working long hours, and even emailing during weekends and holidays.

Now, here comes the remarkable part—my friend’s response: “I’m not answering you today because you’re off.”

I couldn’t help but applaud their brilliant reaction. It’s crucial to establish boundaries, and my friend did just that.

So, I’m curious, what would you do if you found yourself in a similar situation? How would you handle it? When do you see yourself having the need to set boundaries?

The most important step is to learn to say no. And still this is something that many people struggle with. They don’t want to come across as rude or as unhelpful. But it’s also important to change sides and see the benefits to your own wellbeing when you say no.

That email from my friend’s boss wasn’t just a request; it was an intrusion, a subtle erosion of personal space. It’s a reminder that we often allow others to dictate our boundaries, rather than defining them ourselves. And that’s where the problem lies.

Think of it this way: when you consistently overextend ourselves, you become less effective, less creative, and ultimately, less helpful. By setting boundaries, you’re not just protecting your time; you’re protecting our energy, your well-being, and your ability to show up as your best selves. It’s about recognising that your value isn’t defined by your availability, but by your presence.

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