The word no has such a negative connotation. We very often connect it to something negative and forget what good it brings to use it more often. No is likely the strongest word you can use to gain back time and regain control of your working hours.

The difficulty of saying no

We believe that saying no can offend the other person, or even hurt them. And we want to avoid this uncomfortable moment. Doing favors to others while forgetting one’s own priorities.

And that’s a problem. We get too much work, don’t know how to finish everything and on top of that we also need to deliver for the person we said yes to. Frustration, stress, bad mood. All at once.

So what to do? Simply said, saying no will go a very long way. If that is difficult for you, try this:

• use different ways to say no: It’s not convenient right now / I don’t have the bandwith

• reframe it: I cannot do this now, but I will show you how to do it / I would love to support, but right now I cannot

If this request is coming from your boss, ask them which current project can wait, so you can complete the new task.

I still believe that in leadership role it’s crucial to be able to say “no” directly. It can help you to understand, what reason is holding you back to do so. If you need support with this, take it up with your leadership coach.

The impact of saying no

When you master the art of saying no, you can’t help but realise that it has many benefits:

1. People around you will take you and your no seriously. Don’t forget that people prefer clear answers (incl. no) over unclear answers or not completed tasks

2. More time: Saying no will have you take back control of your schedule. More time to work on the things that matter

3. You have now learned what it means to prioritise! Saying no means you’re saying yes to something else (this can help with your wellbeing as much as with your career)

4. You will value yourself more. Not convinced? Try it! It will build your self-esteem and make you come across as more assertive (leadership quality)

5. Respect: In fact this shows respect for yourself and the other person, as you are being honest

Remember, people always value clear and concise communication. And few things are as clear as a “no”.