This is an outcome, that I often see with clients in leadership roles. One that I experienced myself when I was a coachee.

It’s when you set expectations for a change in your leadership style. Maybe you take over a new team, or maybe you report into someone new. And you believe that things, the way they are, are not good enough.

You have a desire to change things. You want to improve and you want to make sure that your efforts will be seen. It makes perfect sense. By the end of the year you want to show that your work did, in fact, have an impact and help grow business.

But these kind of expectations can take a toll. There’s a chance it leads to impostor syndrome. Because you may be wondering if anything you do is ever enough, if you actually really improved anything or if anyone around you notices the work that you’re putting it.

Just remember you’re not alone in this. It’s a human trait to have these kinds of thoughts.

At some point in the coaching, it becomes clear that these expectations are based solely on your own desires. And in fact other people around you don’t have these expectations to begin with.

The desire for a change turns into the recognition that status quo is, in fact, good.

Asking the right questions on your leadership style

How do we get to this result? Through reflecting on one’s behaviours, desired outcomes, values. By asking coaching questions such as “what should be” vs. “what is already in place”?

“What would be different if today xyz changed”. And a useful way to define this is also by asking “what would change for your team? What would the say to you”. Specifically asking what other people around you will say to you in a changed situation, is really useful.

Things don’t always need to change

Sometimes, all that it takes is a reminder that things are okay just the way they are. And that your way of leadership, is what is good for the team.

I believe this is an important understanding. Plus, it shouldn’t make you doubt why you started coaching in the first place. The recognition that your own approach is already good, is very empowering.

Don’t compare yourself to others.

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